In this episode, I sit down with Stacey Nye, whose life was reshaped not by pushing harder or retelling her story, but by releasing the emotional charge that had been quietly running it.
After a traumatic assault, an unexpected pregnancy, and years of holding everything together in silence, Stacey encountered a simple five-minute guided process that changed her relationship with her past. The memories didn’t disappear — but her body stopped reliving them. Calm became possible, and the mental loops that once dominated her life began to loosen their grip.
We explore how this process, known as the Fixed Code, works at the level of feeling rather than behaviour. Stacey shares a powerful metaphor: emotions are the thread holding a necklace of memories together. Most of us keep revisiting the individual beads — the events, habits, and patterns — hoping something will finally change. But when the thread is released, the charge dissolves. Memories quieten. Habits lose their grip. The nervous system finally settles.
From there, the conversation widens into midlife identity, purpose, and alignment. Stacey explains how many of us end up living in the wrong “personality quadrant” — planning when we’re wired for action, caretaking when we need movement — and how this misalignment fuels anxiety and stuckness. Realigning with your natural mode often restores momentum faster than any hustle or self-improvement strategy.
We also talk about what happened next. Stacey kept a bold promise to learn and teach this work, co-founded a practice, and built a service-led model that includes complimentary sessions. With her son now grown, she reclaimed adventure and said yes to a women-led project in Samoa that turns fully compostable nappies into fertile soil and food gardens — a powerful example of what happens when calm meets purpose.
If you’re navigating midlife shifts, feeling caught in mental loops, or sensing there’s a truer way to live and serve, this conversation offers practical language, a clear starting point, and genuine hope.
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https://midliferebel.beam.ly/person/stacey-nye
Chapters
0:00 – Redefining Midlife For Women
0:21 – Meet Stacy Nye And Her Turning Point
1:57 – The Assault, Pregnancy Shock, And Aftermath
3:40 – Years Of Silence And Holding It Together
4:15 – First Fixed Code Session And Immediate Shift
6:03 – From Client To Co-Founder
8:08 – Proving The Method And Early Results
10:20 – Teaching Others And Building A Practice
12:10 – Midlife Identity Shifts And Purpose
14:33 – Personality Quadrants And Living Opposite
18:05 – Parenting, Anxiety, And Toxic Quadrants
22:10 – What The Fixed Code Actually Does
25:45 – Memory, Emotion, And The Pearl Thread
28:10 – Habits Aren’t The Problem, Feelings Are
31:55 – Try It Free: How To Book A Session
33:40 – Passion To Purpose Mini Course
34:55 – Reclaiming Adventure And Saying Yes
36:50 – Samoa Project: Compostable Nappies
39:00 – Serving Excellence As A Life Path
41:10 – Closing Reflections And Listener Invite
44:03 – Host Sign-Off And Support Link